Stories abound of people who were prevented by unforeseen circumstances from stepping onto a ship or plane for the voyage or flight of their life. They escaped death because the ship sunk (Titanic), the plane crashed (Erebus). Their initial disappointment would have turned into something quite different very quickly. Maybe lots of people are prevented from travelling and nothing ever happens to the ship, plane, bus or car. But read reports where tragedy strikes many yet spares some and you can get quite a different feeling about how these things work.
If we plan and save over many months in order to have an extended overseas trip, when we come to the point of packing our bags would we, for the sake of demonstrating our freedom, decide to stay at home instead? We could, but after all the planning and booking and anticipation it would be rather perverse to then turn round and not go without a very good reason. Yet we have created a kind of necessity. We do this all the time. In fact our freedom is to do with how we experience our trip overseas. We have a lot of freedom around that. The same thing holds for all kinds of things: Moving into a new home, getting married, going into business … all these things create a field of necessity – a definite structure or form, in our life, and within the necessary forms we exercise our freedom. We are free to be busy or lazy in our new home, for instance.
So the point is: Necessity and freedom need each other. The one provides form and constraint within which the other can be exercised. When we learn to live freely within the necessities of our life we become more attuned and resilient. We are more likely to make positive choices within the constraints.